A child is a trust you will be asked about — not a possession. What the Qur'ān and Sunnah teach about raising them on tawḥīd, prayer, mercy, justice, and character.
'Guard yourselves and your families from a Fire.' Wealth and children are but a trial, an adornment of this life. The Prophet ﷺ said each of you is a shepherd, responsible for his flock — and a man is a shepherd over his household.
o you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey allah in what he commands them but do what they are commanded.
and know that your properties and your children are but a trial and that allah has with him a great reward.
wealth and children are [but] adornment of the worldly life. but the enduring good deeds are better to your lord for reward and better for [one's] hope.
ayyub bin musa narrated from his father, from his grandfather, that the messenger of allah said :"there is no gift that a father gives his son more virtuous than good manners
Luqmān's first counsel to his son was: 'do not associate anything with Allah — shirk is a great wrong.' Open your children's first words with 'lā ilāha illā Allāh', and root them in the certainty that Allah sees, and to Him is the return.
and [mention, o muhammad], when luqman said to his son while he was instructing him, "o my son, do not associate [anything] with allah. indeed, association [with him] is great injustice."
[and luqman said], "o my son, indeed if wrong should be the weight of a mustard seed and should be within a rock or [anywhere] in the heavens or in the earth, allah will bring it forth. indeed, allah is subtle and acquainted.
o my son, establish prayer, enjoin what is right, forbid what is wrong, and be patient over what befalls you. indeed, [all] that is of the matters [requiring] determination.
'Enjoin prayer upon your family and be steadfast in it.' The Prophet ﷺ taught: command your children to pray at seven, and at ten see to it firmly. Ismāʿīl (ʿalayhi al-salām) was praised for enjoining prayer and zakāh on his people.
and enjoin prayer upon your family [and people] and be steadfast therein. we ask you not for provision; we provide for you, and the [best] outcome is for [those of] righteousness.
and he used to enjoin on his people prayer and zakah and was to his lord pleasing.
o my son, establish prayer, enjoin what is right, forbid what is wrong, and be patient over what befalls you. indeed, [all] that is of the matters [requiring] determination.
The Prophet ﷺ kissed his grandsons, and when a man said he had ten children and never kissed one, he said: 'the one who shows no mercy is shown no mercy.' He would let al-Ḥasan and al-Ḥusayn climb his back in prayer. He is not of us who does not show mercy to our young.
so by mercy from allah, [o muhammad], you were lenient with them. and if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. so pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. and when you have decided, then rely upon allah. indeed, allah loves those who rely [upon him].
and lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "my lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when i was] small."
anas bin malik narrated that:"an older man came to talk to the prophet, and the people were hesitant to make room for him. the prophet said: ;he is not one of us who does not have mercy on our young and does not respect our elders
ibn abbas narrated that the messenger of allah said:" he is not one of us who does not have mercy upon our young, respect our elders, and command good and forbid evil
'Allah orders justice.' When a Companion gave one son a gift, the Prophet ﷺ refused to witness it: 'fear Allah and be just between your children.' Unequal treatment plants envy and breaks the bond the parent most needs to keep.
indeed, allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and forbids immorality and bad conduct and oppression. he admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
o you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for allah, even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. whether one is rich or poor, allah is more worthy of both. so follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. and if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed allah is ever, with what you do, acquainted.
باب العدل بين الأولاد والتسوية بينهم
Luqmān taught his son not to turn his cheek in scorn, not to walk in arrogance, and to lower his voice. The Prophet ﷺ said no father ever gave his child a gift better than good manners — character is the inheritance that outlasts wealth.
and do not turn your cheek [in contempt] toward people and do not walk through the earth exultantly. indeed, allah does not like everyone self-deluded and boastful.
and be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys."
and those who say, "our lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous."
anas bin malik narrated that the messenger of allah(ﷺ) said:"be kind to your children, and perfect their manners
15 _ الباب الخامس عشر في وجوب تأديب الأولاد وتعليمهم والعدل بينهم
2 الباب الخامس عشر في وجوب تأديب الأولاد وتعليمهم والعدل بينهم
The righteous pray: 'our Lord, grant us from our spouses and offspring comfort to our eyes.' Ibrāhīm (ʿalayhi al-salām) prayed to be kept establishing prayer, and his offspring too. A parent's example teaches more than a lecture, and a parent's supplication reaches where advice cannot.
and those who say, "our lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous."
my lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and [many] from my descendants. our lord, and accept my supplication.
and we have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. his mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship, and his gestation and weaning [period] is thirty months. [he grows] until, when he reaches maturity and reaches [the age of] forty years, he says, "my lord, enable me to be grateful for your favor which you have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work righteousness of which you will approve and make righteous for me my offspring. indeed, i have repented to you, and indeed, i am of the muslims."
وسئل الحسن: ما دعاء الوالد للولد؟ قال: (نجاة).
واعلم أن أقرب الدعوات من الاستجابة ما اقترن بحاله هي مظنة نزول | الرحمة إما لكونها كما لا للنفس الإنسانية كدعاء عقيب الصلوات . ودعوة | الصائم حين يفطر ، أو معدة لا لاستنزال جود الله كالدعاء يوم عرفة ، | أو لكونها سببا لموافقة عناية الله في نظام العالم كدعوة المظلوم - فإن لله | عناية بانتقام الظالم - وهذا موافقة منه لتلك العناية ، وفيه ' فإنه ليس بينها | وبين الله حجاب ' أو سببا لازورار راحة الدنيا عنه ، فتنقلب رحمة الله | في حقه متوجهة في صورة أخرى كدعاء المريض والمبتلى ، أو سببا | لإخلاص الدعاء مثل دعاء الغائب لأخيه أو دعاء الوالد للولد ، أو كانت | في ساعة تنتشر فيها الروحانية وتدلى فيه الرحم
When a person dies his deeds end — except three, one of them a righteous child who prays for him. The Prophet ﷺ said a servant's rank is raised in Paradise and he asks how, and is told: 'by your child's seeking forgiveness for you.' This is the harvest of the raising.
and those who believed and whose descendants followed them in faith - we will join with them their descendants, and we will not deprive them of anything of their deeds. every person, for what he earned, is retained.
and those who say, "our lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous."
at that, zechariah called upon his lord, saying, "my lord, grant me from yourself a good offspring. indeed, you are the hearer of supplication."
abu hurairah, may allah be pleased with him, narrated that the messenger of allah (ﷺ) said:"when a person dies, his deeds are cut off except for three: continuing charity, knowledge that others benefited from, and a righteous son who supplicates for him
وفيه طلب التبرك بدعاء الولد الصالح والشفاعة بموت الولد الصغير (1).
وفيه طلب التبرك بدعاء الولد الصالح والشفاعة بموت الولد الصغير (1).
This gathers the principles of upbringing from revelation; the how — ages, methods, screens, schooling — shifts with each child and time, and the platform's parenting guides and tools are for that practical layer. Two threads run through all of it: that the child is a trust, not the parent's project, and that no method replaces the parent's own example and duʿā. Raise them for Allah, and leave their guidance, in the end, to the One who guides hearts.
