The Etiquette of Disagreement

and if your lord had willed, he could have made mankind one community; but they will not cease to differ.

except whom your lord has given mercy, and for that he created them. but the word of your lord is to be fulfilled that, "i will surely fill hell with jinn and men all together."

and if allah had willed, he could have made you [of] one religion, but he causes to stray whom he wills and guides whom he wills. and you will surely be questioned about what you used to do.

الاختلاف الخامس عشر إلى الاختلاف السادس والعشرين

الاختلاف السادس والأربعون إلى الاختلاف الحادي والخمسون

invite to the way of your lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best. indeed, your lord is most knowing of who has strayed from his way, and he is most knowing of who is [rightly] guided.

and do not argue with the people of the scripture except in a way that is best, except for those who commit injustice among them, and say, "we believe in that which has been revealed to us and revealed to you. and our god and your god is one; and we are muslims [in submission] to him."

and not equal are the good deed and the bad. repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.

and speak to him with gentle speech that perhaps he may be reminded or fear [allah]."

so by mercy from allah, [o muhammad], you were lenient with them. and if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. so pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. and when you have decided, then rely upon allah. indeed, allah loves those who rely [upon him].

a'isha, the wife of allah's apostle (ﷺ), reported allah's apostle (ﷺ) as saying:kindness is not to be found in anything but that it adds to its beauty and it is not withdrawn from anything but it makes it defective

abd allah b. mughaffal reported the messenger of allah (ﷺ) as saying :allah is gentle, likes gentleness, and gives for gentleness what he does not give for harshness

it was narrated from aishah that the prophet(ﷺ) said:"allah is gentle and loves gentleness in all things

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the believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. and fear allah that you may receive mercy.

and hold firmly to the rope of allah all together and do not become divided. and remember the favor of allah upon you - when you were enemies and he brought your hearts together and you became, by his favor, brothers. and you were on the edge of a pit of the fire, and he saved you from it. thus does allah make clear to you his verses that you may be guided.

it was narrated that 'uqbah bin 'amir said:"i heard the messenger of allah (ﷺ) say: 'the muslim is the brother of another muslim, and it is not permissible for a muslim to sell his brother goods in which there is a defect, without pointing that out to him

narrated `abdullah bin `umar:allah's messenger (ﷺ) said, "a muslim is a brother of another muslim. so he should neither oppress him nor hand him over to an oppressor. and whoever fulfilled the needs of his brother, allah will fulfill his needs

salim reported on the authority of his father that allah's messenger (ﷺ) said:a muslim is the brother of a fellow-muslim. he should neither commit oppression upon him nor ruin him, and he who meets the need of a brot'ier, allah would meet big needs, and he who relieved a muslim from hardship allah would relieve him from the hardships to which he would be put on the day of resurrection, and he who did not expose (the follies of a muslim) allah would conceal his follies on the day of resurrection

o you who have believed, obey allah and obey the messenger and those in authority among you. and if you disagree over anything, refer it to allah and the messenger, if you should believe in allah and the last day. that is the best [way] and best in result.

and we sent not before you except men to whom we revealed [our message]. so ask the people of the message if you do not know.

o you who have believed, when you go forth [to fight] in the cause of allah, investigate; and do not say to one who gives you [a greeting of] peace "you are not a believer," aspiring for the goods of worldly life; for with allah are many acquisitions. you [yourselves] were like that before; then allah conferred his favor upon you, so investigate. indeed allah is ever, with what you do, acquainted.

malik related to me from abdullah ibn dinar from abdullah ibn umar that the messenger of allah, may allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "if a man says to his muslim brother, 'o kafir!' it is true about one of them

it is reported on the authority of ibn 'umar that the apostle (may peace and blessings be upon him) observed:when a man calls his brother an unbeliever, it returns (at least) to one of them

o you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. indeed, some assumption is sin. and do not spy or backbite each other. would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? you would detest it. and fear allah; indeed, allah is accepting of repentance and merciful.

why, when you heard it, did not the believing men and believing women think good of one another and say, "this is an obvious falsehood"?

abu hurairah reported the messenger of allah (may peace be upon him) as saying:avoid suspicion for suspicion is the most lying form of talk. do not be inquisitive about one another, or spy on one another

narrated abu huraira:the prophet (ﷺ) said, "beware of suspicion (about others), as suspicion is the falsest talk, and do not spy upon each other, and do not listen to the evil talk of the people about others' affairs, and do not have enmity with one another, but be brothers. and none should ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his (muslim) brother, but one should wait till the first suitor marries her or leaves her

فإن حسن الظن بالمسلمين أهل الدين واجب، والتأويل لهم ما أمكن ضربة لازب، فالداخلون إلى الحرم الشريف، والمشاهدون لتلك الأبنية الشيطانية التي فرقت شمل1 الدين، وشتتت صلوات المسلمين معذورون عن الإنكار إلا بالقلب، كالمارين على المكاسين وعلى القبوريين.

and the first forerunners [in the faith] among the muhajireen and the ansar and those who followed them with good conduct - allah is pleased with them and they are pleased with him, and he has prepared for them gardens beneath which rivers flow, wherein they will abide forever. that is the great attainment.

It is narrated on the authority of Tamim ad-Dari that the Apostle of Allah (صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم) (may peace and blessings be upon him) observed: Al-Din is a name of sincerity and well wishing. Upon this we said: For whom? He replied: For Allah, His Book, His Messenger and for the leaders and the general Muslims.

indeed, the religion in the sight of allah is islam. and those who were given the scripture did not differ except after knowledge had come to them - out of jealous animosity between themselves. and whoever disbelieves in the verses of allah, then indeed, allah is swift in [taking] account.

he has ordained for you of religion what he enjoined upon noah and that which we have revealed to you, [o muhammad], and what we enjoined upon abraham and moses and jesus - to establish the religion and not be divided therein. difficult for those who associate others with allah is that to which you invite them. allah chooses for himself whom he wills and guides to himself whoever turns back [to him].

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